Saakshi Nagpal

Archive for the tag “Happiness”

7 steps towards a happier you

Ever wonder few good habits can make you walk the aisle of happiness?

I am a wanderer, restless, person who is in continuous search of finding the other, the better, the happier side of me. I promised myself that this year (2012), I will take care of myself at the highest priority. This is my bit ……

Follow these 7 steps to lead a happy, satisfied life.

 7 Steps to a happier you

Step 1 : Sleep .

We have our jobs to do , we have our social life to manage and we also have our family to give some time to. I always try but fail to do all that stuff in 16 hours a day; if I save 8 hours of sleep. So when I am scrambling to meet all these demands, it’s too casual of me to cut down my savings and spend them on never ending to-do lists.

Whatever, you do. Whenever you manage to do. Please DO sleep on time and for at least – 8 hours. I am no doctor who can explain you the benefits/power of sleep or be able to aware you about sleeping disorders; but can request you to think twice on your sleeping habits. Even minimal sleep loss takes a toll on your mood, energy, efficiency, conscious and ability to handle stress.

How frequently you charge your smart phones?

Step 2 : Punctuality

My work is my elixir and punctuality is one of its parameter. Try to be organized and be on time. The more you give respect to time the more you will be stress free. And while working in a service industry, you can imagine the demons of deadlines and meetings.

My mom always tell me since my childhood , to do things on time otherwise I will forget (short term memory loss 🙂 ), don’t have any clue what’s the source but I still follow this. Organize your work and prioritize it, believe me you won’t forgot those small notes , files ,no missing attachments in e-mails , and interestingly not even your lunch.

Remember, Intime , when time is currency.

Step 3 : Music

Let me clarify to all those, who don’t skip any chance to scold me when I listen loud music with earphones on (oh by the way they are always on , even now!) I know it may lead to health issues. Music helps me to focus, and freshen up, inspires me and sometimes it’s the only thing that gives me a company when I am alone. Music is Sanity.

So let me rephrase – Music is the secret of my energy.

Step 4: Walk

I love it and those who know me can swear on my stamina. Walk few steps for your life. They will give you the time you always wanted for yourself. Even doctors say walk 10,000 steps a day are actually steps to a healthier life. For my lazy days, I take bus no 11 to get back to my place.

A walk to , remember !!

Step 5: Show gratitude

Thank you”. You may have no idea what these two words can do to someone , your kind words of appreciation can make their day , give them a new hope , make them smile.

 Recall the vedio of “Kuch to hua hai” from Kal Ho Na Ho.

Thank you all for being with me till here , I am left with only 2 steps now 🙂

Step 6 : Strangers

Gone are the days when they say, don’t interact with strangers. We have twitter now. A simple # (Shift + 3, simple isn’t) can connect you to the ‘strangers’ with similar concerns. Be honest, don’t you like when someone from other part of the world retweet (RT) yours or reach you with a solution? Similar with facebook likes and shares.

Try coming out of this virtual world and interact strangers in real. Helping someone with the route, crossing the road or to park the car will surely bring a smile on their face as well as yours.

Some sort of my inner gratification.

Step 7: Peace

Have you ever thought of spending few minutes with yourself? Peace is something we all long for. I am NOT advocating listening music, or reading a book or watching a television, by peace I mean do nothing and relax silently.

For me late nights are wonderfully tranquil.  No phone calls, no interruptions. I like the feeling of knowing that nobody is trying to reach me at that hour.

Inner peace will bring the positive vibe to keep you happy as long as you wish !

Stay Happy,

Saakshi

Do you like the article ? Take a moment and share with your friends.

Advertisements

The Quest of the Sparrows

English: Book cover for the book The Quest of ...

Image via Wikipedia

It was some 5 hour journey during the day today with un-limited questions fighting in my mind and few medical reports and co-incidentally bank statement; which gives mirror image of my present state. I am frustrated and annoyed with myself. I am doing a bit for myself and lives a happy serene life , but at times (this comes at a frequency of 6 months) feel unstable and very string vibes of something missing.

Just trying to distract myself , I bought a book to read while traveling. Never knew reading just 20 pages will calm me down .

Thought I should share some excerpts with you. It could have been a  sin , if I choose to keep it with myself.

Book – The Quest of the Sparrows

Authors – Kartik Sharma & Ravi ‘Nirmal’ Sharma

We live in times when media is the king. It’s only interested in financial figure, records and achievements. Spirituality isn’t an object of desire, or even in the headlines; still, you are here. I bow to your spirit, which believes in what no one has seen and marches to a destination that appears to be even harder to achieve than the biggest material goal.

Most human beings search for eternal happiness. Yet, why is it elusive? Most people fail to achieve it by following idealism, spiritualism, capitalism, materialism, socialism or other-isms. Why do they meet disillusionment?

Why does a sparrow, which knows no “-isms”, live without the worries which accompany human beings? What is it we manage throughout our complex lives? Merely survival. Hey, something is wrong – because the bird does the same, effortlessly. So what’s the big difference between us and the helpless sparrow? Don’t you think we’re missing something? What is it?

Forget the sparrow for a moment. Think of all the people in this world. They go to their workplaces in the morning and then return in the evening, like swinging pendulums. But does a pendulum swing aimlessly away and towards the centre? Or does it personify something more , like time? That depends on what you associate with life? Is it aimless or does it have a higher purpose? Like pendulum, it swings between two states – birth and death. What gives it meaning? Can anyone answer ?

The divine . One answer , could be . But that’s a lofty ideal for us beginners. Think of something more practical. Look around you; is everything the same as it was a century ago? What has happened in all these years?

Evolution. Probably ,another answer. Yes . Between birth and death is evolving. That’s the higher meaning of our lives. But what do most people do ? They achieve, lose, feel happy or sad, celebrate and mourn. They merely move to and fro like a ball of a pendulum, with hardly any peace. Even among believers, everyone is religious but very few are truly spiritual. Is it all linked or unrelated? Think over it. Find the connection, and I think we will be able to solve the riddle of life.

Stay Blessed,

Saakshi

Best 15 love songs on my playlist (Side B : Hindi)

Here , is the anticipated top 15 love songs (my favorite) playlist in Hindi.

Actually this list is endless (I have to stop somewhere!), I  grew up listening to these hindi songs. This list consists of songs that pronounce endless and selfless love.

Needless to say , the list is not in any particular order.

  1. Rehna tu –Film : Delhi 6

 ð  A beautiful song by Oscar winning A R Rehman. Try it on a  guitar or a violin or on the keyboard , it only spreads love.

 “haath thaam chalana ho, toh dono ke daaye haath sang kaise,ek daaya hoga ek baaya hoga,tham le, haath yeh thaam le, chalna hai sang thaam le,rehna tu, hai jaisa tu,thoda sa dard tu, thoda sukun”  

 2. Pehla Nasha –Film : Jo Jeeta Wohi SIkandar

 ð  Classic Song. Being in love means – day dreaming, jumping over  benches, swinging in air, throwing  notes in air, smiling and dancing like never before; living in the world but lost in love.

This one dedicated to all first time lovers 🙂

Udta hi firoon in hawaon mein kahin, Ya main jhool jaoon in ghataon mein kahin, Ek kar doon aasmaan zameen, Kaho yaaron kya karoon kya nahin……… Usne baat ki kuchh aise dhang se, Sapne de gaya vo hazaaron range ke, Reh jaoon jaise main haar ke, Aur choome vo mujhe pyaar se ” 

3. Suno na –Film : Jhankar Beats

 ð  When telepathy grows stronger than words.

 “Door ho kar bhi door tum nahin ho, paas ho lekin paas kyon nahin ho,….tanha tanha sama, mehki mehki hawa

 4. Dil kya kare  – Remixed version : Shaan  (Film : Julie)

 ð  My favorite since childhood,. Original is good, but the remixed version by Shaan is awesome.

dil kyaa kare jab kisee se, kisee ko pyaar ho jaaye, jaane kahaa kab kisee ko, kisee se pyaar ho jaaye,unchee  unchee diwaaron see, is duniyaan kee rasme, naa kuchh tere bas mein jyoolee, naa kuchh mere bas me” 

5. Deewana tera – Singer : Sonu Nigam

 ð  Sonu Nigam gave back to back romantic albums – Deewana , Jaan , Yaad etc, this is my favorite.  Sing like …Deeeewannaaaa teraaaaaaaa tujhe hi bulaeeee …..

 “  Yaad teri aane lagi,jaan jaane lagi hai, Ho ke juda kyun tu mujhe, aazmane lagi hai, Yeh bhi to soch le dil hai sheesha mera, Jaane kab toot jaaye

 6. Woh pehli baar – Film : Pyaar mei kabhi kabhi

 ð  Oh , that college love !! 🙂 🙂  I am sure, it would be on favorite list of most of you. Just walk hand in hand, while listening to the song .

 “Teri aankhon mein jannat basake chala, Teri zulfon ki chhaaon mein chalta chala, Tere neinon mein chein tere labh pe khushi, Tujhko hi main mohabbat bana ke chala

 7. Pal pal dil ke paas tum rehti ho – Film : Black Mail

ð  I love old songs , all of Kishore Kumar’s and Mohd . Rafi’s but this number , has something special 🙂  Add some personal touch to it , dedicate this to your beloved on a long drive.

 “Har Shyam Aankhon Par,Tera Aanchal Lehraye,Har Raat Yaadon Ki,Baarat Le AayeMaein Saans Leta Hoon,Teri Khushboo Aati Hai,Ek Mehka Mehka Sa ,Paigham Laati HaiMeri Dil Ki Dhadkan Bhi, Tere Geet Gaati Hai, Pal Pal … 

8. Tum ho – Film : Rockstar

ð  No doubt Mohit Chauhan has given incredible romantic numbers since silk route (remember : dooba dooba rehta hun) , this track from Rockstar, touches my heart. First 9 sec …awesome….divine.

 “Tum ho..,Mere liye,Mere liye,Ho tum yoon..,Khud ko mein,Haar gaya tumko,Tumko main jeeta hoon……..,Kahin se..,Kahin ko..bhi,Aao bewajah chale,Pooche bina kisi se,Hum mile..,Bandishein naa rahin,Koi baaki..,Tum ho..”

 9. Dil Ibaadat  – Film : Tum Mile

 ð  It’s my observation ,Emran Hashmi’s songs are always far too good. This one is more realistic and appropriate for all ages. Feel young  🙂

Baahon mein de bas jaane, Seene mein de chup jaane, Tujh bhin main jaaoon toh kahaan, Tujhse hai mujhko pane, Yaadon ke woh nazraane, Ik jinpe hak ho bas mera

 10. Guzarish – Film : Gajni

 ð  When this film was released, my cousin says it’s an essay . To me it’s an ecstasy.

Kehde tu haan to zindagi,Jharno se choot ke hassegi,Moti honge moti rahon mein..Yeah yeah yeah,Tu meri adhoori pyaas pyaas

 11. Tum se hi – Film : Jab we met

 ð  Want that spark back. For  soulmates; looking into each other eyes , cherishing the moments in each others arms 🙂

Aadha Sa Wada Kabhi, Aadhe Se Jayada Kabhi, Jee Chaahe Kar Lu Is Tarah Wafa Ka, Chhode Na Chhoote Kabhi, Tode Na Tute Kabhi,Jo Dhaga Tumse Jud Gaya Wafa Ka, Main Tera Sarmaya Hoon, Jo Main Ban Paya Hoon, Tumse Hi

 12. Baaatein kuch ankahee si – Film : Life in a metro

 ð  Looking for a way to express your undying love …. This will help you.

 “keh de mujhse dil mein kya hai, aisa bhi kya guroor, tujhko bhi toh ho raha hai thoda asar jaroor, yeh khaamoshi jine na de, koi toh baat ho, wo wo o o o o o…….., shaayad yahi hai pyaar 
 

13. . Hey Shona – Film :  Tara Rum Pum

 ð  For that sugar coated confession of love 😉

 “Tumhein Pata To Hoga, Tum Hi Pe Main Fida Hoon, Tumhein Hai Jab Se Chaha, Hawaon Mein Udta Hoon, Tum Hi Mere har Pal Mein, Tum Aaj Mein Tum Kal Mein, Hey Shona Hey Shona “ 

14.   Kehta hai pal pal tumse  – Film : Major Saab

ð   The simplest way to say it all.

Hum Tum Tum Hum Ban Ke Rahein, Hum Raaz Humsafar, Shikwa Kare Na Koi, Ek Duje Se Umr Bhar, Pyaar Hamara Ho Aisa Ke, Dekhe Ye Zamaana, Pyaar Kiya To Nibhana

 15: Kuch na kaho , kuch bhi na kaho – Film : 1942 A Love Story

ð  Have you ever heard , non verbal communications strengthen  the bond.

Aur is pal mein koi nahin hai, Bas ek main hoon, bas ek tum ho, Kuch na kaho, kuch bhi na kaho, Kya kehna hai, kya sunna hai, Mujhko pata hai, tumko pata hai, Samay ka yeh pal tham sa gaya hai, Aur is pal mein koi nahin hai, Bas ek main hoon, bas ek tum ho

 PS : For non hindi readers, I tried to translate these  lyrics in english, but I stopped myself. I realised I am ruining the beauty of songs. Few words (in different languages) depict emotions more strongly.

Love,

Saakshi

Related articles

Do you like the article ? Take a moment and share with your friends.

Love yourself

Hey Guys and pretty gals !

Whatz up ?

February has come, and has brought along the season of love ❤ , love is in the air …isn’t it ? Radio is playing only love songs, websites are flashing dating tips and valentine ideas. Markets are decorated with colors of red, heart shaped balloons are sold on every traffic signal.
 
It’s all mushy – mushy feelings inside every young heart. Want to dress up nicely, look your best, struggling to find one perfect gift, filtering love songs for a romantic playlist, planning romantic getaways or that elusive date. Just love and happiness all around. Icing on the cake , end of season sale is still on ( 🙂 ). Dil to bacha hai jee ….

So why is it, that out of 12 months we feel February to be the most romantic. We have 365 days in a year , but we celebrate 14th of Feb as the Day of Love. Oh man, all we ever want is LOVE, then why do we celebrate this for just one day.

Ah ! Well I am not the person to answer this; rather I should not be doing so. Valentine day is for the people who are in love, and I assume I am (at present) in love with this random hobby of writing. If I look at my blog stats I am celebrating it once in a week (for a novice, its fair enough).

Winters are always looked upon, thanks to poets, as a sad, rude, and blue, with cold emotions. Somehow I can relate to it. Long term illness (struggling with allergic dry cough for more than 70 days is tough, trust me !) and few unfavorable unexpected situations made me little unfocused and burn out this winters. I am tired and want to be back. This sadness and the feeling of despair is ruining me, need a break now.  I took a short break from writing, just to avoid spreading sadness. Though all this time I felt blessed with the love you have shown and bestowed me with positive energy. I love all the comments (on blog), they are fantastic. Thanks for your support.

Spring is the season of love, full of hopes, colors and youthfulness. It’s the perfect time to pull up my socks and wake up the ‘why not’ or ‘let’s do it’ side of me (I am so missing that).

 I am helping myself and have started doing the things I always love to do.

1.       Cooking

I am a foodie. Loves to cook, serve and eat. Due to cough was avoiding standing in kitchen and then scared with the very thought of doing the dishes with freezing water.This season, will experiment on some continental dishes.

 2.       Reading

Someone suggested few books , to help me find the answer to ‘who I am , what I am doing …. Bla bla ‘ . And Voila….Shantaram is in my hand , these days.

3.       Music

 Enrique Iglesias, I love you. I am listening all those sexy – dulicit tones again and again. As you Enrique say ‘I will survive’, I will.

4.       Dance

Wish to dance like a free bird and put my heart out. It’s soothing, relaxing and a great workout. ( I just don’t like gym environment). Who knows I may give Sheila, Munni , Chameli , Jalebi bai ,  a decent competition … LOL !!

I am a Punjabi , bring it on those racing heartbeats,  dhol beats , give me some adrenaline rush.

5.       Freak out

This is the February, the most happening month. I am going to enjoy all the romantic movies, going out for long walks, nice 🙂 dinners. You never know when cupid strikes? 😉

6.       Believe in my self and Love myself

Ah ! can’t help this , I am my favourite. A little madness in the spring is a wholesome goodness for this fair maiden!!!!
Let’s  see what this season holds for me .
 
What about you guys , what are your valentine day plans 😉  !!

 

Love,

Saakshi

Do you like the article ? Take a moment and share with your friends.

The pursuit of sadness

Have you ever experienced such a feeling that by each passing moment it feels like something is terribly missing? Something isn’t right. Have you ever faced this miserable –sinful feeling that everyone around you is in a situation just because of you.

I am in such a phase for the past few days. I know I am committing a crime. It’s only my musing power that has gone beyond its acceptable limit and is the culprit of my pitiful condition.  I prefer to remain silent, full of self guilt, confused, in a state of emptiness, hopelessness.. ..Simply sad (you can imagine any bollywood movie scene) losing my beautiful life’s battle to my worries and fear. It’s so easy to fall into feelings of despair.

 Why am I like this…One day I am so cheerful and happy like a sunshine, the other day sad, crying, despair  ? (cut short chinta mani)

Sadness and happiness are two relative words (oh come on everybody knows this, what’s new?) .We , homosapiens!  Always try to protect ourselves from sadness, run away from the things that have the potential to hit back at us, make us feel as if we are powerless to change these circumstances.  It’s an irony; we worry and fear for things that make us happy. We remain in doubt whether they will happen. Why don’t we simply make them happen? 

It’s our time, It’s our life, we can do what we like, for the price of a smile, why do we cry?

You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”

I love drama. I am in love with life and have full of emotions. I am a genius of sadness, can immerse myself deeply into it, can separate numerous strands. I am a prism through which sadness could be divided into its infinite spectrum. I am sad; at times I am like this.

Am I sad? Am I in pain? Yes I am. I should be rather grateful, I feel alive . Else , its just work all day, moving from one task to the other . I should be happy, I am alive as a human not a machine. I got a reason to celebrate myself and take a break.

Life is a perfect balance. (Thee has designed it like this way, and how come He can go wrong!) There are two beams which depict two phases of our life in a cyclic way. At a given point of time, only one is heavier.

As per my observations (I haven’t lived even half of average life boosted by experts) One beam is for feelings of joy, confidence, strong self esteem and feeling on cloud 9. Another beam is for despair, a lack of finding meaning/answer/purpose of life. Sometimes walking back home I realize how miraculous is the feeling of being alive and blessed with what a wonderful gift –Life , the most undefined , unwritten , unpredicted and  unknown. There are days when the same path let me wonder about the disasters in an instant ! Money, health, relationships, friends everything (surprisingly, they all go off track together) act like a black hole; pulling me to their indefinite depth and making me lost to nowhere.

In midst of such circumstances we curse God, ‘where is HE  while all this is happening to me? ‘ How many of us have actually got the answer ? The same beautiful, precious Life seems to be a brutal struggle.

There is one more characteristic of Life – it’s uncertain. We often tend to forget this. It’s our mistake not His.

Sometimes we do not achieve what we set out to do, or something we have had or achieved is taken from us. When the world about us changes, particularly if it is sudden or dramatic, we must adapt to everything. The world is then not what we thought. We are not what we thought we were.. The old picture has been taken away, the old world we knew  that gave us comfort is gone, there is no choice but to form a new world, a new picture of how we think things are.

 

Stay Happy , keep smilling 🙂

Saakshi

PS :  “Don’t be ashamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.”
Brian Jacques, Taggerung

 

Do you like the article ? Take a moment and share with your friends.

Fear – A stopage before victory

English: Title of motivation and emotion

Image via Wikipedia

We dream of becoming heroes.

We dream to hear large audience’s applause and cheering our names.

We dream to be a star.

We dream of victory.

And, in reality …….

We have sleepless nights.

We hopelessly get anxious over defeat.

We perspire and we are nervous.

And this is when …..

We Fear.

FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real

I too have dreams (a lot of them) and subsequently few fears. What stops me from getting over them and achieve what I want to – is, a sense that people around me might disapprove “what I aim to be”, worst the sense of being embarrassed in front of all.

I fear of public speaking (on a broader spectrum, socializing). And at times think myself as an introvert (which certainly I am not). I stick to my belief that underestimating my potential would be the worst I can do to myself, so, I start digging my mind to find the roots of my hesitation (as I feel I was much active and participated regularly in my school days).I was happy to observe that am bit less of a social person now but duly content with myself. However this ‘solitude’ at times haunts. (Yes! I confess.)

So on my mission to revamp, I am in no mood of entertaining myself with a silly excuse ‘not going to do, because of fear of failure’, which by matter of fact is true and it’s a human tendency. (I v/s myself – on this fight am always on).

Fear is a habit like self pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. I wish to dump all this junk out of my sacred mind and soul with two simple resolves – I can and I will.

So here I am with a RED – GREEN – YELLOW plan; traffic lights with a twist. (A big round of applause, it’s designed by – “ME”!!). Here goes the plan …

•           RED: – Stop and say HI J(in person, online forums, or on an IM). Idea is to de-sensitize myself at social situations only in a motivating way. Building courage and expanding my comfort, being genuine at the same time.

•           GREEN: – GO! Take THE action. Being motivated is just not enough. Absorbing the positive energy and taking action to bring the change is vital. There are so many wonderful ways to act and am sure they would be bringing gains along with them. Simply take a piece of paper (or open a new word documentJ) and pen down whatever crosses my mind. Motivation is important else it can be hard to get going and knowing actually what needs to be done to bring the change.

•           YELLOW: – Next to motivation and action is FOCUS. Focus on the amazing work to be inspired more and maintain the spark (I usually call it as the ‘charm’).

I know failure will haunt back, at least to someone with a fragile mind set as mine. After all I define fear as a block on one’s mentality and confidence. So here I am with my disguise skills. I plan to disguise my mind by looking at the other side of coin. If I fail, there would be some lesson; it would automatically create room for improvement. Just need to catch it. No one is going to kill me if I fail, it won’t be the end of the world, I will still be alive, very much alive to move on with full energy and inspiration, determined to fight back again. I would not be at square one again. I have achieved something. Earlier I was hesitating to start and now I actually have started!!

I am open to hear what failure needs to tell me because I impatiently want to taste success.

This inspiration comes to me from my niece. She got a beautiful bicycle as her birthday present and also has fear of riding it. But after one or two bruises, she was ready to invite me for a lift and can even bet for a race. If this sweet little kid can do it, then why can’t a grown up mature woman like me can’t do?

I have learnt that an addiction to positivity can lessen the fear in my mind of what might happen in a new, unfamiliar situation or how someone might respond to what I am saying. A negative view of the world can create fear and hold me back.

And if ever I lose motivation, inspiration and focus (cut short, my charm) I will come back to this page, read my own words and be my own motivation. I hope it will work; I can’t let myself down 😉

Friends, wish me luck. I need it ‘coz darr ke aage jeet hai  🙂

Embracing the new

Sometimes people come into our life and we have a hitch that they were meant to be there, to serve some purpose, teach us a lesson, or to help figure out who we want to become. We never know who these people may be. May be a long-lost friend ‘friends’ via Facebook , or a stranger who seems to be always in a hurry each morning standing at the bus stop. But when we notice them, we know that very moment they will affect us in some profound way.

People we met and share success and downfall with, help to create who we are and we want to become.

Strange isn’t it?

When they love, they embrace us, when they hurt or betray, they teach us the importance of trust and hard meaning of being cautious. A moment of love, affection, and care make us calm,composed and confident. It fills our days with joy and happiness. A betrayal makes us cold,frustrated and shocked.

We humans are very sensitive yet we say we are strong and move on easily, knowing deep down that our emotions are fragile. Now, how we know that? We feel compelled to stay on a rigid pre – chosen path for our lives, even if we don’t want to. And why is it so? It revolves around our reclusiveness (which we generously say ‘self defense’), or simply we are afraid to experience something different from our routine.

Embracing the new in life is not about making unwise risks, but about taking chances for the quality of our lives. The new may not bring fame and fortune, but happiness we were longing for.

I read somewhere that people are like onions. Onions!!! Every now and then we have to peel off a layer to reveal a new facet of theirs’ , just to mention with every layer comes the tears , more importantly it adds a critical flavor to everything you do , if you do bad it will stink. Peeling an onion symbolizes new beginnings, afraid of tears but revealing a fresh new skin, ready to take onthe world!!

PS: Give every man thy ear but few thy voice. – Shakespeare.

Post Navigation

%d bloggers like this: