Saakshi Nagpal

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One Moment … One Life

Hie ,

One lIfe

One lIfe

I always wonder how one text, one song, one mistake, one lie, one word, one truth, and one person could change your mood in one moment.

Strange but it happens this way.

I wonder how happiness starts with one word, one joke, one text, one phone call, one song, one hug, one kiss , one look … and stops with one mistake !!

I wonder why it’s just one moment that holds the power to get attached or get detached ?

Why just one moment to decide either to make it or break it ?

Too much dependency on emotions , matters of heart ..  😦

But that’s what makes us feel alive.  Moment by moment we fall in love with life.

We move ahead.

We take decisions.

We react and then anticipate.

We hold our faith.

We create pleasant and self favorable myths.

We love. We live . We die.

I wonder how many of you can give a big shout out with me

I am in love with life .. I am alive . . .each moment and every moment

Love,
Saakshi

Keep expectations , Keep moving forward

Jhilmil loves to dress up in a feminine way, adjusting sari drapes and adoring herself in mirror.  She enjoys spicy Indian street food. . She longs for spending time with her childhood friend, Barfi. Though she is autistic but she is just like any regular girl.  She keeps her guards high. One fine day she experienced insecurity and jealousy from Shruti. Shruti is Barfi’s ex. She was expecting Barfi’s complete attention which now Shruti was sharing. She felt so bad, so  ignored andso  lonely that she left the place silently.

She was in love with Barfi.

Jhilmil and Barfi were childhood friends but what made her realize that she is in love with him ?

After Jhilmil left,  Barfi lost the zeal of life. He then realized he was in love with her. Why? Earlier he was trying to get rid of her. Now, she when is gone, what has changed? Why he have an urge to get her back in his life?

The beautiful adorable couple faced such separation because their expectations from each other did not meet. Does it look like most of the love stories today? Either they are maturing together or ruining their self because of ‘expectations’.

Our expectations determine whether we feel good or bad – happy or sad – content or angry – over whatever happens in our lives. They impact how we feel about our relationships, work, friends, and people we meet on the street, special days like holidays or birthdays and the world around us. Expectations set up the judge and jury on how we feel about our lives and ourselves. Our expectations are a ‘big deal’.

Some wise people have said, don’t keep expectations or keep them at minimal. It will only hurt you. But tell me, if you won’t expect anything from anyone, how will you cherish the gift you have in your kitty? How will you feel the precious love around you? We usually fight with friends, family and loved ones over various sensible and stupid reasons. Try digging out the nature of those arguments, you will find it’s always the difference in expectation level.  These are the relationships worth fighting for. These are the relationships worth keeping expectations for. If you don’t have dreams what are you going to live for?  Similarly If you don’t have expectations what are you going to achieve?

In any matrimonial alliance, the most common, initial and important question one stakeholder asks the other is ‘what are your expectations from this settlement?’

To determine the ‘big deal’ of our expectations, we have many unhealthy ways to try to meet them. Many struggle to fulfill them by pushing or controlling situations to fit into the mold already created. We may use manipulation, persuasion, passive aggression or intimidation (with anger or tears) to fill our expectations.

There are many different types of expectations that like approval, respect, attention, and love; validation of our good self, qualities and success; to have power or control on situations; to be taken care of by others and so on. If we didn’t receive them while growing up then it would impact our today’s expectations; whether we will receive them now or not. We may even unconsciously select or attract people to fill these types of expectations.

Many times we have expectations that are not reasonable or realistic, but that doesn’t mean that we are “bad” or demanding. It just means that we hope for things that, perhaps, we didn’t get at some time in our life.

Now, when I am entering in the 2nd quarter of life (oh yeah!! I expect myself to live 100 years. . . ) My mom’s expectations are changing, earlier she expected me to behave nicely, study well, speak in a polite cheerful way. Now she expect me to behave maturely, look into family issues, help her (read guide her) through various issue. etcetera. Her expectations are shaping me up to be the lady she has dreamed of me. She always wants me to go for higher studies, be independent and take my own decisions, because this is what she was expecting herself in her time.

Expectations define your relations.

For friendships, you might want to consider what you are looking for, and what do you want from a friend. How do you expect to handle conflict and communication with them? How are feelings and thoughts shared? How much trust do you have in your friendship? How much emotional dependency is ok?

For romantic relationships –  How do you define love and what do you expect from love? How do you approach problems and situations with your partner – as a team or independently and what does that do to your expectations?

When we can understand our expectations and where they come from, then we can begin to select those we wish to keep and begin to chuck out those that hold us back. We begin to gain more control and feel more content with our lives. Expectations give hope and excitement to our lives.  They give us the pushing factor to make them happen.

If I say ‘I wanna grow old with you’ I am expecting that you will be with me and I’ll do my best to hold you till eternity. Barfi had expectations from life, he wanted Jhilmil to be with him, he then made it happen.

Keep expectations, keep moving forward.

Saakshi

Expressions of love

Hey beautiful ladies out there , what’s up ?

Waiting for Valentine’s Day . It’s my favorite time of the year!

You can say, the unofficial holiday (everyone uses the stupidest of excuses to take a day off).    If you are in a relationship (or you have find someone to go out with ) then this Tuesday is your day  and if you are single (aka like me) then be ready to enjoy the PDAs  – public display of affection ,everywhere( with  no offense, it’s just a general view. )

Do you know how it feels to be single on the Valentine’s Day? Nothing bad actually, it’s awful, only  when I try to fill the void.  Well, is it written anywhere that V day is to love someone and to treat your partner with all your love ? (Only your partner, not you !!!)

Valentine’s Day is a day of exchanging flowers, cards, and loving sentiments punctuated with warm feelings of admiration, affection, and infatuation….. bla bla . True , but it looks good in romantic novels or movies only.

From years I have been celebrating it myself (I am my favorite, so in love with me ) going out for a movie , shopping or freaking out  for a city’s drive. Dressed up nicely, wearing my favorite perfume. All those years I did everything I need to please me.  This year, I want to make it special. Something that signifies the independent and oh so ever charming side of me (* Blush *Blush).  I need some strong expressions to celebrate the lovely and beautiful person in me.

Let me tell you a secret now :  Women LOVES jewellery (more than their wardrobe).  No matter how many of them we have, we still have undying fetish for more. ( I personally am old fashioned, so something like a cutesy heart necklace paired with a single red rose is so romantic. ) Behind every piece of jewellery there is an untold story.

So when I was searching jewellery to gift myself, one of my friends help me with this website.  : http://www.expjewelery.com . You must check out for a lovely Indian collection. Expression’s Reflections of excellence,  has a vast collection of waistbands, key chain, earrings, rings, necklaces, pendent sets, armpits and bridal jewellery. Do you know ‘Jewellery takes people’s minds off the wrinkles’?

So by the time I select ‘the one’ for me (oh come on ! I am girl , deciding the one from such a beautiful and tempting collection , needs time. You will be wondering, why I am spending time for a fake jewellery ?

Let me tell you another secret: jewellery gives woman a good boost to their morale. I will always prefer a fake jewellery, not because that looks more real, but because I think I am sort of paranoid. I don’t want something around my neck that’s worth more than my head.

Here are plenty of options to have something unique. How about the keychains , for that royal Indian look ? They have some pretty ‘peacock‘ designs too. Or should I look at something in shells ? They look quite girls (perfect to hide your age and feel young from within 😉 ) here is one in white (serene !!)

Now , I could have choosen these waist bellts , if and only if I have a waist to die for ; like the one of Shilpa Shetty. Chick and Sexy !

I must thank Beyonce Knowles for her song ‘ Single Ladies’ that help me stumb

le upon the rings section.

Please help me friends , selecting a ring  I am confused  with these 3 .

Expressions - Reflections of Excellence

All the single ladies, If you like it , you should put a ring on it. !

Celebrate this valentine with all love and glitter that reflect your expressions well .

Love ,

Saakshi
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Love yourself

Hey Guys and pretty gals !

Whatz up ?

February has come, and has brought along the season of love ❤ , love is in the air …isn’t it ? Radio is playing only love songs, websites are flashing dating tips and valentine ideas. Markets are decorated with colors of red, heart shaped balloons are sold on every traffic signal.
 
It’s all mushy – mushy feelings inside every young heart. Want to dress up nicely, look your best, struggling to find one perfect gift, filtering love songs for a romantic playlist, planning romantic getaways or that elusive date. Just love and happiness all around. Icing on the cake , end of season sale is still on ( 🙂 ). Dil to bacha hai jee ….

So why is it, that out of 12 months we feel February to be the most romantic. We have 365 days in a year , but we celebrate 14th of Feb as the Day of Love. Oh man, all we ever want is LOVE, then why do we celebrate this for just one day.

Ah ! Well I am not the person to answer this; rather I should not be doing so. Valentine day is for the people who are in love, and I assume I am (at present) in love with this random hobby of writing. If I look at my blog stats I am celebrating it once in a week (for a novice, its fair enough).

Winters are always looked upon, thanks to poets, as a sad, rude, and blue, with cold emotions. Somehow I can relate to it. Long term illness (struggling with allergic dry cough for more than 70 days is tough, trust me !) and few unfavorable unexpected situations made me little unfocused and burn out this winters. I am tired and want to be back. This sadness and the feeling of despair is ruining me, need a break now.  I took a short break from writing, just to avoid spreading sadness. Though all this time I felt blessed with the love you have shown and bestowed me with positive energy. I love all the comments (on blog), they are fantastic. Thanks for your support.

Spring is the season of love, full of hopes, colors and youthfulness. It’s the perfect time to pull up my socks and wake up the ‘why not’ or ‘let’s do it’ side of me (I am so missing that).

 I am helping myself and have started doing the things I always love to do.

1.       Cooking

I am a foodie. Loves to cook, serve and eat. Due to cough was avoiding standing in kitchen and then scared with the very thought of doing the dishes with freezing water.This season, will experiment on some continental dishes.

 2.       Reading

Someone suggested few books , to help me find the answer to ‘who I am , what I am doing …. Bla bla ‘ . And Voila….Shantaram is in my hand , these days.

3.       Music

 Enrique Iglesias, I love you. I am listening all those sexy – dulicit tones again and again. As you Enrique say ‘I will survive’, I will.

4.       Dance

Wish to dance like a free bird and put my heart out. It’s soothing, relaxing and a great workout. ( I just don’t like gym environment). Who knows I may give Sheila, Munni , Chameli , Jalebi bai ,  a decent competition … LOL !!

I am a Punjabi , bring it on those racing heartbeats,  dhol beats , give me some adrenaline rush.

5.       Freak out

This is the February, the most happening month. I am going to enjoy all the romantic movies, going out for long walks, nice 🙂 dinners. You never know when cupid strikes? 😉

6.       Believe in my self and Love myself

Ah ! can’t help this , I am my favourite. A little madness in the spring is a wholesome goodness for this fair maiden!!!!
Let’s  see what this season holds for me .
 
What about you guys , what are your valentine day plans 😉  !!

 

Love,

Saakshi

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