How are you?
I hope you must be in the best of spirits of your health and also on the road that leads to LIFE.
You must be wondering about the title of this weblog. Chill. Relax. Nothing has gone wrong (presently) in my life. It was just a thought across my mind while attending a team meeting today. (Boss, I am sorry nothing sort of this was on agenda and definitely I was attentive,it is just a random thought.)
Earlier I imagined what life would be, if it is well documented. That weblog was all about planning. Here, I am talking about execution of the planning discussed previously and the fate of decisions that were taken.
I am a Business Analyst and belong to IT sector; I tend to see LIFE as a long term engagement project. For me success of project LIFE depends upon the decisions made while it is on planning and development phase.
Before I go further into Root cause Analysis of why something goes wrong, I have few questions for you.
Q1 :How do you make decisions?
a) Are you influenced by peers?
b) According to your experience?
c) Blindly follow your gut?
d) As per your comfort level?
It depends from person to person and sheer luck, following any one of the above can either rocket you on cloud 9 or corner you with a bottle of wine and a jaw dropped expression saying ‘something has gone wrong.’
Q2 : How sure are you with your decision ? Do you regret?
When I was a kid I was always running away from water (you guessed right 🙂 , I somehow managed to skip bathing every second day) my father used to pick me up on his shoulders and without warning threw me in a big bucket. I was shocked at first but then laughed out at the trick he’d played.
He taught me a lesson, ‘whenever you want to achievesomething, plunge straight in.’
Traveling through all those growing years, I had quickly (yes, I regret 😦 ) forgotten this lesson . I am only …oh, how old I am!! Hmmm…. were you expecting that I will disclose my age…leave it. I had already nurtured many enthusiasms (starting something on my own , enrolling to MBA classes , going for walks every day , learning dance , studying Spanish and French ,blabla , blue blue ) which I had abandoned as quickly as I had taken them up.
I am not afraid of difficulties rather I always stand upfront to face challenges. I was scaredof forcing myself to choose one particular path and missing out on others. I am afraid of committing to myself. I always wanted to follow all possible paths and so ended up following none.
Every project by default has a fate – failure, unless and until you firmly decide to be on one path and drag it to success. There are no optimal solutions pre-written or tree structures made to crack the mystery of success. Similarly, Life is complicated. One has to follow certain paths and abandon others at times, only to prove that they were not the right ones, but it wasn’t as bad as choosing a path and then spending the rest of life wondering something had gone wrong.
Probably , it is the law of life (I m pretty young to say ‘fact of life’) that not everyone could escape the dark night even if someone has never made a decision , even if someone lacks courage to change anything because in itself it was a decision!! (Proud to be an Analyst)
Well, my dad also says, ‘the time when it goes wrong it’s actually teaching you something.’
Are you still worrying that something has gone wrong?
Cheat sheet for you:
Nothing in the world is completely wrong, even a stopped clock is right twice a day.